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staycation

Monday, December 29th, 2014

I don’t think we’ve had a really good staycation in a while, so this holiday break was definitely welcome. and unexpectedly wonderful. I appreciated the opportunity to not really have things planned out with the kids — even their TKD, swim, and gymnastics classes were canceled for the most part, so having unscheduled time with them was great.

Things we did included:

– Brandon and Katie took their TKD belt tests. They’re both yellow-white now, and Brandon was invited to the Black Belt Club (provided that his parents approve of this). Hee. Katie is actually doing much better in class now that Brandon is there with her, and he has an opportunity to work out himself with either a coach or another dad, so he’s not stuck to her side the whole time.
– Katie and I went to The Nutcracker with my mom, sister, and Riley. The Nutcracker itself was fun. The stuff that came afterwards is covered in a post that barely anyone can read because it’s locked down, yo.
– Random nighttime drives around to look at lights, with hot chocolate and cookies, in PJs. The first time, we came across a street dubbed Candy Cane Lane (Dewey St. in RWC) and we ended up going there purposefully a second time! (It’s a smaller version of the insanity that happens in San Carlos on Eucalyptus.)
– We went to Happy Hollow with Casey. The kids were totally amazing that day and it was a super fun time. :D The kids totally adore Casey, and I loved having time to catch up with her.
– We took the kids on the Niles Canyon holiday train, because our friends Carolyn and Peter were amazing enough to coordinate it so we could all sit together in a caboose! Both of them really enjoyed it, even though they were pretty maxed out by the end.
– Jordan, Elyssa, and Lexi came over; having a day with old friends is always wonderful.

Christmas itself was awesome. The kids were amazing about the presents they gave each other, and us, and the ones they received; it was a little more difficult when we went to my parents’ house later, because having all four cousins together made it a little more grabby-grabby (but not awfully so).

Overall, I think the best gift we gave each other was being together for the week; I got to learn more about their personalities and I finally settled into a more adept version of myself as a parent by the time that it ended. It’s hard sometimes to realize just how big they’ve gotten, because they still feel very little to me, and having time to “turn no into yes” and experience more of what makes them individuals is rewarding.

The world’s nicest mom said she’d color this.

Monday, December 29th, 2014

The world's nicest mom said she'd color this.

He REALLY likes what we got for Tyler.

Monday, December 29th, 2014

He REALLY likes what we got for Tyler.

Feeling too hot, literally. :(

Monday, December 29th, 2014

Feeling too hot, literally. :(

A day out!

Monday, December 29th, 2014

A day out!

Katie, without prompt, explained Hanukkah to Max and I tonight. <3

Friday, December 19th, 2014

Katie, without prompt, explained Hanukkah to Max and I tonight. <3

rain and drought

Tuesday, December 16th, 2014

We had a big storm last Thursday, and a bunch of cities around and including ours had severe flooding. I hadn’t realized just HOW LONG it has been since we had some good rain until Max asked me, as we drove, what the noise he was hearing was — the sound of rain on the car’s roof. He asked again when he heard it on his umbrella. In three of his four years, our winters have been dry enough that he honestly wasn’t used to the sound of rain hitting surfaces around him.

One of my favorite childhood memories is of California’s rainy winters, spent inside and warm. When Caroline and I were young, we would empty the floors of our closets and set up little hidey holes inside, with pillows and blankets, and hide in there reading and listening to the radio. I also used to spend much of my winter vacations sitting in front of the fireplace and Christmas tree, reading and lounging around. I look forward to Katie and Max being able to read themselves, so they can do the same (Katie is on the cusp!). It also motivates me to clear out some of the kid cruft in our house (like, hey, diaper table in Max’s room) so we have a warm reading nook. :)

stuff that has happened since my last post…

Monday, December 15th, 2014

1: BrightRoll was just acquired by Yahoo, so I’ve been acquired twice now. One of the VPs who was part of the acquisition of Danger by Microsoft is a SVP at Yahoo… so I guess he’s following me around? :D
2: Katie got her first report card! It was not anything unexpected, and her teacher has really connected with her, which I feel fortunate about. The best part of the feedback was that she’s apparently a very good integrator, so she understands concepts and then explains them to kids in her class who are having a hard time with them using real-world examples. I like the idea that she’s helping other kids learn.
3: My children are ridiculously old. It’s funny that I can still remember when 6 and 4 seemed impossibly far away for either of them, and now they’re well on their way out of those ages. Relatedly: I got rid of all of my cloth diapers and I’m okay with that.
4: The kids seem to think that our money is communal. Katie said taking coins from the change pineapple (not a jar, but a pineapple) to put into her own piggy bank isn’t “stealing” because “it’s the family’s money”, and Max has told me to get “lots of jobs” so they can buy as many presents as they want for themselves.
5: Working with the kids on holiday stuff is so much easier now that they’re older. Decorating for both Halloween and Christmas has been much more communal, but it also means that I can see that the kids need to work on their boundaries (not touching all the ornaments but instead waiting for me to give them ones that won’t break) as much as I need to work on my patience (I literally can only decorate the tree with them in 20 minute intervals before I am so agitated from the near-misses that I’m going to explode). Their independence working on projects (mainly for Katie) means that things like building gingerbread houses goes much more smoothly than it has in the past, and the result is more of their own work vs. something we mostly did for them.

Otherwise, I really like my job, and my family and husband, and am generally smiley! WOO!

I had leftover dye after my touch-up…

Monday, December 15th, 2014

I had leftover dye after my touch-up...

My short people.

Monday, December 15th, 2014

My short people.

Two of a kind

Sunday, November 23rd, 2014

Two of a kind

katie becomes…. goth?

Monday, November 17th, 2014

Last week, Katie came home with holes in her leggings. I asked her what had happened, and she told me she used scissors to cut holes in them, to show people she “had lived a dangerous life.”

I know that there are important times as a parent when your kid comes to you with ridiculously childlike, adorable comments, and you want to be moved to laughter, but you realize that your 6-year-old is deadly serious and that you have to NOT choose this as the moment that you teach them that their upper/middle-class life in a suburb is decidedly not dangerous. So, I did the responsible mom move and choked down my snort as I told her that I understood that she wanted to go for a new look. She looked at me, deadly serious, and said, “Mommy, we have to go and get me dangerous clothes. This weekend. This is not a choice. We have to.”

Things that I learned in the last week that “tough girls” do:
– they don’t care whether or not their clothes are pretty, they just wear what they want
– they wear dark colors

Originally, I decided to take Katie to Hot Topic because I read her desire as a cross between goth and punk. However, Hot Topic has turned almost entirely over to character clothing, and while I literally teared up that she immediately honed in on Sailor Moon (one of Jenna and my favorites from college), while Max whimpered into my leg that the Walking Dead bobble heads were scary, nothing they had was the right size. So, I took her to Justice for the very first time… remembering that moment when I first saw the store from across the way, at The Children’s Place, and never imagined my wee babe would be old enough to shop there.

Katie immediately honed in on a mannequin wearing distressed, paint-splattered jeans. They were cute, I have to say, but I believe this would qualify as the very first time that: a) we tried something on in a dressing room for a reason other than “for giggles” (we had to see if they actually fit), and b) I have bought my kid something marketed as “premium denim.” Then, she picked out this army jacket that was the couture version of the (real) army jacket I wore like religion in high school. MY KID HAS HIT MY HIGH SCHOOL STYLE AT 6. No lie, I teared up right there in the store.

Eventually we did hit The Children’s Place, where she also bought camouflage leggings, black studded leggings, a vinyl black laser-cut skirt, two black sweaters (one with jewel buttons and one with “Love” in multicolored embroidery), and a black shirt with a Santa skull from the boys’ section (where I had to explain to her that buying from a certain section of the store doesn’t make you look like the gender that side is marketed to).

Since then, she has also asked me to paint her nails black (although she asked for shiny), and described herself as “goth”, which I am sure she got from hearing me try to describe her style to a sales associate. Based on the fact that she still has epic tantrums, I think she’s far punkier than goth. :D

a quote

Monday, November 17th, 2014

Max: “If you give me tees, I’ll give you a hundred dollars.”
Me: “Honey, I don’t want you to give me your money.”
Max: “I won’t give you my money, I’ll get it by doing a lot of jobs.”

My fashion plate

Tuesday, November 11th, 2014

My fashion plate

Current status

Sunday, November 9th, 2014

Current status

Yes.

Friday, November 7th, 2014

Yes.

My date!

Wednesday, November 5th, 2014

My date!

katie is six

Tuesday, November 4th, 2014

I somehow totally left this in drafts instead of posting it. :( Sorry, K-bug! So, here it is, a month late!

Katie. Girlfriend is something else. She is now in Kindergarten and constantly amazing me with her intelligence and her maturity/stubbornness/emotional behavior, in turn. She can ride a two-wheel bike! (I have no idea if I blogged this but she picked up that skill early in the summer.)
– Katie is not the kid who is going to ever cling to us when going into a new situation. She’s already declared me “embarrassing” on many occasions, belying her years. (If she only knew what was coming…) She’s finally letting us kiss her on the face (for a really long time we were only allowed to kiss the top of her head) but she will really only cuddle when she is sleepy or doesn’t feel well.
– She loves to lead, to help other kids follow the rules, and to be first.
– If you don’t know better, she will play dumb and pull one over on you HARD in terms of following rules. For example: her teacher thought she really didn’t understand that “only teachers print from the computers, not children” … until I clarified for her that no, Katie understood EXACTLY what she was doing, because she is very computer literate. So, she’s generally manipulative, and intelligent enough to get away with it.
– Katie is her mother’s daughter: sassy, opinionated, stubborn, and easily distracted. She has a very hard time focusing in most of her classes unless we do excessive prep in advance. She also loves to sing (but certainly not to listen to ME sing) and I think she can’t wait to read, considering how much she tries when given the opportunity.
– TV/movies/screen are her weakness. She behaves worse when a screen is on in her presence because getting her attention is nigh impossible.
– She is TALL. She’s the height of a 7yo!
– She is an accomplished liar.
– She’s boy crazy, already. She doesn’t really care about whether or not they want to be her boyfriend, she will declare who she is going to marry (it seems to go between Jonathan, Griffin, and Knut, a boy in her class). And of course, she and Max are going to marry each other.
– She steals our change and puts it in her piggy bank. (We are on to you, missy!)

The Yearly Quiz!
What’s your name? Katie Sonderegger Marie Katherin Rhodes Bellach Awesome Bug Punkin Moon Wakeup Milkies From When I Was A Baby. [laugh]
What’s your favorite color? Y-e-l-l-o-w and r-e-d.
Who are your best friends? Jonathan and Max. Lyla, Mia, Audrey Frankenstein [Einstein] — she’s Eleanor’s sister. [Anybody else?] Riley, Sophie, Tyler, M-o-m-m-y, D-a-d-d-y, Auntie Ava, Uncle Shane, Uncle Josh, and Auntie Caroline.
What is your favorite book? Bob books.
What is your favorite song? Let It Go! [Anything else?] Wreck It Ralph!
What is your favorite movie? Frozen. Wreck It Ralph. The Falling Chance of Meatballs.
What is your favorite TV show? Curious George.
What is your favorite animal? Um, bunny. A bunny rabbit.
What’s your favorite food? Ice cream!
What’s your yuckiest food? Poop.
What’s your favorite restaurant? The Spaghetti Factory.
What’s your favorite store? Toys R Us.
What’s your favorite game? Mermaid Mansion. [Mermaid Island.] The mansion part is a kind of mermaid club.
Do you have a favorite clothing item, and PJs? My new batgirl halloween costume. [The one from last year?] BATgirl. [You don’t have that yet.] When it comes! [We never even ordered one!] Well, I wanted one! [What are the favorite clothes that you have actually have?] Spidergirl!
What is your favorite word? Y-e-l-l-o-w. Wait, I don’t want that word, I want a different word. My favorite word is zing! Mermaid mansion!
What makes you mad? When Daddy yells at me.
What’s your favorite toy? Mermaid Mansion. Actually, the bubbles.
What do you want to do when you grow up? I want to be, um, hm. Let’s see. Hm. A veterinarian, I think. [Why?] Because, I’m not quite sure what I want to be when I grow up just quite yet, because I think I know what I want to be, I think I am going to know what I want to be when I grow up.
What’s your favorite sport? Let’s see. Ice skating. [Have you ever actually ice skated?] No, and also my favorite sport is hockey, baseball also. Soccer.
What’s your favorite thing at school? Me time. [What’s me time?] When you get to cool down. [Like a rest?] When you get to cool down from the hot day and you get to take a moment for yourself.
If you could go on an airplane anywhere, where would you go? To Hawaii! I mean to the place where you can see the Statue of Liberty.
What are 3 words that describe you? Pretty, beautiful, smart, funny, cute. [Is that three?] And nipple.
When you were little, you used to: Poop in my diapers. [Anything else?] Suck on my thumb and drink from your nipples. I meant boobs. I meant nipples. Erase the boob. [Thank you, honey!] I’m not done! So, I also used to play with play dough, wear a really cute birthday hat while I was playing with the play dough, and that’s all I can really remember.

Adorable rain kid!

Saturday, October 25th, 2014

Adorable rain kid!

three teeth gone

Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014

Katie went to her pediatric dentist on Monday with Brandon and she took x-rays to see where the permanent teeth were in relation to the ones that were knocked awry. One was right behind the one that was knocked out, and near the one next to it, so hopefully it wasn’t negatively impacted. They ended up giving her nitrous and then a couple of novocaine shots and then pulling them, so she has a huge hole in her mouth now. The funniest part, to me, is that she realizes that her vampire tooth is showing on one side, so she asked me to pull the other tooth that was there so she was a true vampire. Hee.

I’m glad that she is such a trooper. I really wanted to cuddle the heck out of her to comfort her (read: me) and we did have one great day of snuggles, but this is the kiddo who doesn’t generally like being held (after she’s done crying, or when she’s not trying to pull something over on her bro). So, seeing her return to a state of normality is good.

And, she had two visits from the tooth fairy in as many days! Woo!