April 05, 2001

Here in the Bay Area, we have this neato service called craigslist, which is like the personals section of a newspaper for free plus the ad section of a newspaper for a small fee, started by this local dude named Craig that I've seen in real life who lives in Cole Valley. But anyway. I sometimes like to read the missed connections, because they tend to be cute, and at other times amusing when people post back and forth. Yesterday saw this posting:

I want my cowboy back!

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Reply to: anon-877334@craigslist.org
Date: Wed Apr 4th

I don't know if a "missed connection" can include postings from people who are missing those they connect with... oh well. Here's to the rebel that's me.

This weekend was fantastic. Each time I see you, I am more and more convinced that you're the man I want to be with for always... as if I can be more convinced. :) See, I'd even tell people on some weird bay area bulletin board: Hi! I'd like to kiss my doctor good morning and good night, every day of the rest of my life. It hurts me to have to send you off on a plane back to the frozen wasteland just when we get to the point where it feels right to be where we are.

At least I can remember your sweet sighs, how your hand felt in mine, the way you sit when you eat at my dinner table, your love of giving out gold dollars, and the fact that driving on Cali highways makes you have fear.

I can't wait 'til your birthday trip!

Anyway, the trip was good. Woo yeah.

I am reading Gus' musings about how he and his new girlfriend look at couples who are seemingly in love and make a comment to the effect that "they don't know what REAL love is" (meaning that only Gus and Gretchen DO), and it makes me want to kick him. And I don't even know the guy, for Christ's sake. For some reason, lately, I've been noticing that lots of people like to put their own opinions about relationships on other people. For example (and these are JUST EXAMPLES. Do not write me later and try to defend yourself, I'm only using you to prove my own selfish point):

1. Jenna told her sister that she had her priorities wrong about relationships, because she listed "a good personality" third instead of first. Why does Jenna think that what she values in a relationship is the right thing to value? Why does she think it's what anyone else should value? What if the "right" thing you should value is a guy who owns good kitchen knives? Even more so, why does she care what her sister writes in an online personals ad? ;)
2. Caroline said that she thinks that rings and things of that nature, and wearing anything on your wedding finger that's relationship-related, is something that people shouldn't do; they should "keep it sacred" instead, and not wear those kind of things until it's an engagement ring or a wedding ring. Of course, when we talked about it further, she backtracked, but my point is that she made this little point about what's the "right thing" to do. Ack.
3. Um, okay, I can't think of more examples right now, but this is good enough for me.

Hey, look at this neato ring:

If anyone knows what that pattern is, please mail me, 'cause I'd like to know. I think that it's a form of trinity knot but I'm not sure.

Hm. What else? This month is insane. This weekend I am going to SD to have Passover with J-san and her family, which will be great because I love her and her family, and then I get to come back and go see M's friend Henry (I wonder if he'll let me touch his arm muscles... scary!), then on Thursday I get to feel bad for missing M's bday, then on Friday I get to see Lloyd Cole be amazing like he always is. The next Thursday is Dina's bday, and she's going to be out of town for it, so she wants me to be around that weekend, but I might end up driving to LA with Sierra to see her possibly new digs in Redlands. THEN the weekend after that is supposed to be M's bday weekend. Yikes.

But most of May is free....